The Car Ride Home: Tips for Parents of Young Athletes

Adapted from content by Amy Masters, iSport360

The ride home after a game or practice can shape how your child feels about sports. Done right, it builds confidence and joy. Done wrong, it can add stress and pressure.

Here’s how to make it a positive experience:

? What to Avoid

• Immediate critiques → Kids already know their mistakes. Let them decompress.

• Comparisons → Never say “Be more like [teammate].” Every child grows at their own pace.

• Score obsession → Wins and losses happen. Focus on effort and attitude.

• Forcing conversation → Silence is okay. Let them talk when they’re ready.

✅ What to Do Instead

• Lead with positivity → “I loved watching you play today.”

• Let them lead → If they want to talk, listen. If not, that’s fine.

• Ask open-ended questions → “What was your favorite part?” or “What did you learn?”

• Celebrate effort → Praise hustle, teamwork, or attitude over results.

• Keep it fun → Play music, chat about something else, stop for a treat.

• Support emotions → Validate feelings: “I can see you’re frustrated—it’s okay.”

⭐ The Big Picture

Your role isn’t to coach—it’s to support. The car ride home is a chance to remind your child that:

• Effort matters more than outcomes.

• Sports are supposed to be fun.

• You’ll always be proud, no matter what.

Sometimes the best thing you can say is simply:
“I love watching you play.”